Threesomes, rough towels and ‘lesbian bed death’: 23 of the best Sexual Healing columns

The Guardian’s sex advice column is coming to an end after 20 years. Here are some of the most memorable questions and answers

The truth about the ‘gender care gap’: are men really more likely to abandon their ill wives?

It’s one thing facing a major diagnosis; it’s quite another dealing with your partner pulling away. But does the stereotype match the reality?

‘You are constantly told you are evil’: inside the lives of diagnosed narcissists

Few psychiatric conditions are as stigmatised or as misunderstood as narcissistic personality disorder. Here’s how it can damage careers and relationships – even before prejudice takes its toll

Women cope better when their partner dies. I’ll have to go before him, out of spite

Should your partner be your best friend? After David Mitchell mansplained relationships, I asked my husband and his answer surprised me

My health is declining and I’m worried my husband might not take care of me

Facing illness is scary, especially if you’ve always been the carer and your family don’t seem to see your needs. The first step is sharing how you feel

Love’s Labour by Stephen Grosz review – the truth about relationships

In a series of revelatory case studies, a psychoanalyst lays bare the messy reality of romantic love

‘The Swiss army knife of sex’: 26 easy ways to spice up your love life

From massage mitts to snackable aphrodisiacs, here’s how to liven up your sex life – no matter your age, experience or relationship status

‘They ate my ex’s furniture!’: people on their drastic divorce decisions, from training huskies to getting plastic surgery

Whether it’s quitting a job and hitting the road, selling precious gems or jumping out of a plane, the agony of a breakup can spark huge changes – for better or worse …

I’m delighted with my 45-minute erections – but why are my orgasms such a letdown?

After a long, slow buildup, everything is over in a flash. Changing positions doesn’t help, so what’s left?

What happens when love tips over into the infatuated state of ‘limerence’?

A neuroscientist decided to study the addiction-like obsession of limerence, while overcoming it himself