Pamela Stephenson Connolly: It seems you experienced a serious sexual assault and like many victims of this kind of crime, you are blaming yourself for something that was perpetrated by others - our society often refuses to recognise sexual coercion of men by women

Pamela Stephenson Connolly: It is perfectly normal for women to have orgasms during sleep or on awakening. It is probably the female equivalent of male nocturnal orgasm and ejaculation - except that we rarely notice because there is no tell-tale semen left in the bed